Burnout to Balance: Recovering From Burnout…Or How To Prevent Getting To The Point Of Burnout

It’s such a difficult time when you realise that you’re stuck and that your life just isn’t working for you anymore.

You’re crazy busy but feeling like you’re busy on all the wrong things and becoming more and more drained physically and emotionally.

It can be hard to see that there really is a way to find your way out when:

* You’re overwhelmed

* Burnt out

* Feeling like life is passing you by

* You want to change, but what and how?

* You don’t have time to stop and figure it out. You’ve things to do and bills to pay.

* You’re bursting with ideas for changing career or setting up your own business but that means leaving the career you worked so hard to build.

* Everyone else thinks you’re crazy. Your life looks so good from the outside.

That was me just a few years ago. But I eventually found my way…and my WHY. So I KNOW you can do this, because I’ve been there too.

My own journey of discovering a way to balance a career I love with a much healthier lifestyle helped me discover a process that really works.

That’s when I knew, I have to share this. That’s what inspired me to leave my career in HR to start coaching women who also feel they’re stuck.

But way before I got to that point, my burn out became a breakdown. TWICE! But I overcame that and you can too.

So how did I manage to overcome burnout and overwhelm and find peace, balance and much more happiness and pleasure in life?….

How did I recover from burnout?

1. I removed my biggest stressor. I LEFT MY JOB.

That’s when my breakdown happened. And unlike my idol Brené Brown, this wasn’t my Breakdown / Spiritual Awakening, it was a breakdown.

I’d been running on adrenaline for years and once that wasn’t needed to maintain the pace of life I’d been hammering through, it switched off completely and I was left in an exhausted, emotional mess. I felt like my world had imploded. I felt like my mind was imploding.

Maybe you’re really happy and inspired with your job but you just feel that it’s taking up way too much of your time and energy leaving you with nothing else for life and the people closest to you. In which case, you can take stock, have necessary conversations, establish boundaries and redress that balance. 


2. I took some TIME OUT.

I know taking time out of work isn’t a luxury that everyone can afford but in my case I sold my house, which gave me the financial freedom to take some time out. I knew I was giving up my financial security/pension but I figured if I didn’t have my health, I didn’t have anything and I chose to prioritise that over money.



Properly. For first time ever.

This is the hardest part for most people and it sounds so counter-intuitive, “How can I possibly slow down when I’m trying to balance all these things?!” But you really need to, in order to declutter that crazy To-Do List in your mind and to start to put it into some sort of manageable order.

In my case, I took solo weekend breaks away in a friend’s caravan on a remote beach in Wales where I walked, wrote, read and rested. I booked a week away to Turkey in a location where there was absolutely nothing of interest to do or see so that it would force me to sit and lie still.



I wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote.

It’s why I’m still such an advocate for journaling. It clears your head, helps you prioritise and helps you recognise repeating patterns of thought and behaviour.



I learned to say no. I choose how I spend my time. I don’t do things I don’t want to (where possible).

And when I waiver, I remember that I made huge changes to my life to protect my mental and physical health and it’s vital that I don’t take backward steps to where I was before. I have difficult conversations. I explain to people how I feel, why I make choices and they’ve all been supportive and accepting. Mostly.

6. I distanced myself from NEGATIVE PEOPLE

Life is hard. That’s a given. But it’s how we deal with it that matters.

My way to deal with life is generally with optimism and positivity, once I’ve allowed myself to deal with and process the emotions. Personally, I find negative, pessimistic, competitive and angry people exceptionally draining. So once I realise that someone has that impact on me, I try to limit my time with them, to protect my own energy.


7. I spent time in NATURE

I spent a lot of time in nature. I walked along a local river, drove to the mountains, stayed by the sea.

Nature is grounding and I found stillness and balance when I inhaled fresh air.

8. I dealt with an unhealthy relationship with ALCOHOL

Even my counsellor commented that I didn’t drink that much. But it wasn’t the amount that I was drinking, I recognised that it was the ‘why’ I drank that was the problem. I was trying to numb things or take the edge off, escape from life or sometimes escape from me.



I read and read and read and read and read. I read about spirituality, personal growth, the law of attraction, psychology, how the brain works.

I also studied – Nutrition, Mindfulness, Yoga, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Life Purpose – I just couldn’t get enough information.

I’m still learning…and growing. 


10. I found YOGA


Initially I even raced my way through yoga practices, doing high intensity yoga shred workouts.

It wasn’t until I almost broke my toe doing burpees – yeah, don’t worry, I get it. Burpees in yoga! – that I realised that what I needed to do was slow the feck down. Epiphany.


11. I discovered SPIRITUALITY

Or I finally opened up to spirituality. I’ve always been spiritually curious, possibly trying to find something I could grasp onto. But nothing connected. Maybe I just wasn’t ready.

But an Ayurvedic consultation led me to a daily practice of spiritual reading, yoga, pranayama and journaling.

I decided to go to India for yoga teacher training and spent a month in Rishikesh, the spiritual home of yoga.

I spent another month in Goa and Karnataka and immersed myself in yoga and spirituality.

Those of you who have been through a Spiritual Awakening will understand how I later found myself stuck in the ‘Dark Night of the Soul’, a dark, empty period of personal growth and transition that made me want to turn the clocks back and make it all stop!

That led to breakdown number two. This one really was more of a Breakdown / Spiritual Awakening but I didn’t know that at the time.

I had five months where I experienced suicidal thoughts. But underlying it all, I knew I wasn’t depressed or suffering from anxiety. But when I had a few weeks of low mood, I was concerned that I couldn’t continue to fend away those thoughts and so I faced right into it and I reached out for medical support and counselling to try to finally uncover my thoughts, habits, behaviours, addictive personality and any other demons that were lurking. Medical support was poor but the counselling was transformative.


12. I let go of my PERFECTIONISM

I tried, okay I’m still trying, to let go of perfectionism.

I put enormous pressure on myself for things to be ‘just so’ or how I think other people expect them.

I’m trying to recognise when the perfectionist takes over and let her go pronto. It’s a work in progress.


13. I RELOCATED to a Mediterranean island

I’ve always had a very clear vision of how my life would be someday.

I imagined living by the sea, living simply, buying fresh food from the local market and spending lots of time outdoors.

I always believed that vision would be achieved when I reached retirement, but suddenly I realised, why wait until retirement? Why not live that vision now when I’m young enough (ish), fit enough (ish) and strong enough to deal with a big move?

So in February 2020 I did just that. I moved to Mallorca, to a gorgeous, light, bright, airy, spacious top floor apartment in Palma.

I can walk to the sea in 15 minutes, I shop at the local markets, I get out into the mountains, countryside and beaches regularly. I work from home and I work from co-working spaces or cafes when I know I need company. I’ve adopted a little dog so we walk to the sea every morning.



I don’t have a car. I don’t buy much stuff (I already have too much stuff and I don’t want to clutter my lovely space) My favourite social events are coffees and brunches. Okay, okay, I also love a glass of Verdejo in the sunshine but I’ve no interest in nights out, or even fancy dinners.

I became vegetarian during my time in India so even my food choices are more simple now. Every morning I enjoy coffee, writing and reading on the balcony and pottering about with a few plants.

I’m living the lifestyle I dreamed of. And I get to help other people find the lifestyle they dream of too. So really I guess I’m a lifestyle coach. Because I believe in a holistic approach to Mind, Body, Life and Soul. If anything is out of balance, everything is out of balance.

What would I do differently?

Everything has worked out great for me but I had a lot of ‘detours’ and it took time for everything to eventually fall into place.

If I had to do it all again, I would take more time to fully consider my options and plan my exit strategy so that I would have a lot more of the pieces in place before I left my job.

That’s why I guide people just like me and you through that process in my Burnout To Balance coaching programme and Burnout To Balance Online Self-Study Course. Find out more here….

The books that got me through this difficult time

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I know I said I read a lot but I read far too much to be able to recommend everything right here so here’s a link to my reading list.

But if I had to select just a few, the books that had the most profound impact on me were:

The Secret, Rhonda Byrne

Love Is Letting Go of Fear, Gerald G. Jampolsky

Lifeshocks: and how to love them, Sophie Sabbage

Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, Gabor Maté

The Power Of Now: A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment, Eckhart Tolle

Your True Home, Thich Nhat Hanh

Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind, Joe Dispenza, D.C.

Tuesdays With Morrie: An old man, a young man and life’s greatest lesson, Mitch Albom

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