Perfectly Imperfect
Embracing imperfections helps you enjoy life more
While we’re all spending more time at home during lockdown and restrictions, most of us are probably spending even more hours scrolling on social media.
So you can’t have helped but notice how almost everyone online is striving to be perfect. Suddenly you can’t post a selfie without filters or enjoy your dinner before showing off your fabulously curated plate of food. I’ve even seen dogs who are better groomed and accessorized than I am!
Thankfully there seem to be a growing number of people online who refreshingly now show their before and after pics.
As in:
Photo #1: This is what I look like on Instagram, in a pose that’s likely to put my back out any second now, with as many added filters and edits as my fancy app allows. BTW it took me 103 photos to get this perfect shot.
Photo #2: And this is what I actually look like 5 seconds before or after the perfect photo with my very normal tummy roll, some cellulite and what looks like a double-chin because I wasn’t quite camera ready.
If only these people didn’t feel they still need to show off the ‘perfection’ images, but they’re taking a huge step in the right direction.
But what if you just decided to take a step away from all the competition, all that clamouring for likes, comments, shares and hearts?
Or even better, what if you chose to actually enjoy your life without sharing it with the world?
Here’s how you can start to reclaim your life and become happier.
Stop judging
You can decide right now to stop analysing other people, looking for what’s wrong with their face, their body, their outfit or their life choices. Refocus your attitude, so you stop seeing differences as flaws but merely as something that makes that person unique.
Just let go of the urge to criticise others, and you’ll notice a flow-on effect on how you see yourself and self-judge less.
Accept your imperfections
Wanting to be the best version of you isn’t the same as being a perfectionist.
A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they’re doing.
Being your best means you work hard, you try, and you don’t give up. But it doesn’t mean you blame yourself when things aren’t perfect, and you don’t take failure personally.
Relax and enjoy the process
Perfectionists tend to trip over every little detail and allow imperfections to spoil their lives. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.
Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.
Adopt imperfection as a way of life
Perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It’s fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what? You don’t want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you?
Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about life. Your perspectives changes, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly doesn’t matter so much.
Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. All experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly, that help build the person you are continually becoming.
Embracing imperfection means there’s always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.
The best version of you.
