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Love The Life You Live: Uncover A Life Of Passion & Purpose


What is Love The Life You Live?

Love The Life You Life is a programme I developed after working with clients and recognising a strong repeating pattern in the processes that helped them.

The Roadmap is a step-by-step guide to assessing your life, finding purpose, making plans and how to take steps to achieve them.

Here’s a video talking you through the  exact process to help you to Love The Life You Live. 

You can also download a FREE copy of the Roadmap, and the Mind:Body:Life:Soul holistic framework (below). 

 I’d love if you could share your comments, particularly about anything you’d like to see more of. Happy to share anything that can help right now…🙏🌈💕

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    Make Working From Home Work For You

    Make Working From Home Work For You

    WORKING FROM HOME – EFFECTIVELY

    Whether you are an entrepreneur, your company allows you to work remotely, or you’ve had no choice but to work from home during lockdown, more and more of us are working from home.


    The GOOD

    There are lots of positives. No stressful commutes, fewer interruptions, and often, more flexibility with less structured work hours.

    The potential downsides

    But if there is one potential pitfall of working from home, it is overworking and never truly switching off from thinking about work. There’s just not the same closure of walking out of the office every evening and segueing into your home life.


    How to make working from home work for you

    So how do you keep a balance between work and “you” time?

     

    1. Work regular hours. Set a start time, a finish time and break times and try to stick to those.
    • Allow yourself a little flexibility, things can come up and let’s face it, this is one of the perks of home-working.
    • Schedule in breaks too, and make sure you take them.
    1. Establish a morning routine – this is probably one of the most important, for me anyway. If my morning routine slips, the whole day slips. I walk the dog, come back and shower, do some yoga, make a coffee, sit on the balcony and write my journal, then make another coffee and it’s time to sit down to work.
    1. Productivity: Work out when you’re most productive so you know when you’ll get most done and plan your more difficult tasks for the time of day when you know you’re in the right headspace for them.
    1. Get dressed for work. I’m not talking dresses, power suits and heels but get out of your PJs, get out of your slouchies and get into work appropriate gear. You’ll be glad of this when you get an unexpected Zoom call, you’ll always be camera ready.
    1. Set boundaries or rules with other people in your home so that they respect your space and time during your working hours.
    1. Remove distractions and try to structure your day with blocks of time where you will be uninterrupted.
    1. Write a realistic To-Do list and try to complete it every day. Try to avoid procrastinating and don’t carry it forward to the next day as that just leads to a daunting start with even more to do.
    1. Eat The Frog. If you haven’t heard of this Brian Tracy book, it’s simple yet genius. If you have a row of frogs that you have to eat, then you’re best just eating the biggest, ugliest one first. Then your day can only get better. So do what you’re dreading most. Then enjoy the rest of your day.
    1. Have a dedicated work area. Not all of us are lucky enough to have a spare room we can use as an office. But work in a space that you can assign solely to work and walk away from at the end of the day. If you have to work at your kitchen table or dining table, then clear all the work away at the end of the day so that you’re not looking at it when you should be switching off.
    1. Get fresh air. Whether it’s a walk in the morning, a bit of exercise in your lunch break or a run when you finish for the day, try to get outside, get some natural light, fresh air and breathe.
    1. Go work in a local coffee shop and get exercise while walking there, some fresh air and a change of scenery. The background noise can simulate your normal work environment. It also removes the chance of you being distracted by any household chores. My apartment is never cleaner than when I’m procrastinating on a work task! Two hours in a coffee shop can really help get stuff done!
    1. Get a proper chair. During lockdown, many people started working from home with little or no notice so didn’t have the chance to get the right furniture and equipment. You need a chair that provides lumbar support, preferably adjustable to fit it to support you. Many employers will provide these. And a proper monitor will save you back ache too so that you’re not crouching down over a little laptop screen.
    1. You’re going to miss the social interaction from the workplace and it can feel isolated and lonely at times. You could use Zoom or Skype to stay connected for meetings. Working from a café occasionally can provide some human interaction, but maybe you could to arrange to meet friends more outside of work hours, exercise together or end your work day with a coffee and a chat.
    1. Find a way to end your day so that you can switch off from work mode to home mode.
    1. No fighting over what music to listen to. You get to choose your own music. I enjoy slower vibes for writing, funkier vibes for inspiration and sometimes I really enjoy pure silence.
    1. If you’re anything like me, sometimes it’s difficult to get in the flow or concentration and there are so many things at home you could be doing, should be doing. My house is never cleaner than when I’m procrastinating on work I don’t like doing. I use the Pomodoro Technique to keep me focussed for short periods.
      Set a 25 minute timer.
      Work for 25 minutes, then take a 5 minute break away from your screen or work.
      Repeat this 4 times then take a longer break.
      It works!
    1. Plan your meals. I quite often find myself deciding to make a nice meal for lunch then spending a lot of time prepping, cooking and cleaning up. Prepare your meals the night before, just like you would do if you were going to the office.

    18. Keep your weekends free. You need time off to recharge. You may need to work Saturdays and Sundays but try where possible to have 2 consecutive work free days to rest, reset and recharge.

    From Breakdown to Breakthrough… (part 2)

    Yesterday I told about the moment when I realised my life wasn’t working for me. When I started to make changes, even though these changes were positive, my burnout became a full-blown breakdown.

     

    How did I recover?

     

    1. I got off the hamster wheel. I LEFT MY JOB.
    That’s when the breakdown happened. And unlike my idol Brené Brown, this wasn’t a Breakdown / Spiritual Awakening, it was a breakdown. I’d been running on adrenaline for years and once that wasn’t needed to maintain the pace of life I’d been hammering through, it switched off completely and I was left in an exhausted, emotional mess. I felt like my world had imploded. I felt like my mind was imploding.

    2. I decided to take some TIME OUT to get a proper break.
    I know taking time out of work isn’t a luxury that everyone can afford but in my case I sold my house, which gave me the financial freedom to take some time out. I knew I was giving up my financial security/pension but I figured if I didn’t have my health, I didn’t have anything and I chose to prioritise that over money.

    3. I found YOGA
    Eventually. Initially I raced my way even through that, doing high intensity yoga shred workouts. It wasn’t until I almost broke my toe doing burpees – yeah, don’t worry, I get it. Burpees in yoga! – that I realised that what I needed to do was slow the feck down. Epiphany.

    4. I SLOWED DOWN.
    Properly. For first time ever.
    I took breaks away on my own in a friend’s caravan on a remote beach in Wales where I walked, wrote, read and rested. I booked a week away to Turkey in a location where there was absolutely nothing of interest to do or see so that it would force me to sit and lie still.

    5. I set BOUNDARIES
    I learned to say no. I choose how I spend my time. I don’t do things I don’t want to (where possible). And when I waiver, I remember that I made huge changes to my life to protect my mental and physical health and it’s vital that I don’t take backward steps to where I was before. I have difficult conversations. I explain to people how I feel, why I make choices and they’ve all been supportive and accepting. Mostly.

    6. I discovered SPIRITUALITY
    Or I finally opened up to spirituality. I’ve always been spiritually curious, possibly trying to find something I could grasp onto. But nothing connected. Maybe I just wasn’t ready. But an Ayurvedic consultation led me to a daily practice of spiritual reading, yoga, pranayama and journaling. I decided to go to India for yoga teacher training and spent a month in Rishikesh, the spiritual home of yoga. I spent another month in Goa and Karnataka and immersed myself in yoga and spirituality. Those of you who have been through a Spiritual Awakening will understand how I found myself stuck in the ‘Dark Night of the Soul’, a dark, empty period of personal growth and transition that made me want to turn the clocks back and make it all stop! That led to breakdown number two. This one really was more of a Breakdown Spiritual Awakening but I didn’t know that at the time. I had five months where I experienced suicidal thoughts. But underlying it all, I knew I wasn’t depressed or suffering from anxiety. But when I had a few weeks of low mood, I was concerned that I couldn’t continue to fend away those thoughts and so I faced right into it and I reached out for medical support and counselling to try to finally uncover my thoughts, habits, behaviours, addictive personality and any other demons that were lurking. Medical support was poor but the counselling was transformative.

    7. READING
    I read and read and read and read and read. I read about spirituality, personal growth, the law of attraction, psychology, how the brain works. I also studied – Nutrition, Mindfulness, Yoga, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Life Purpose – I just couldn’t get enough information.

    8. JOURNALLING
    I wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote.
    It’s why I’m still such an advocate for journaling. It clears your head, helps prioritise, helps recognise patterns of thought and behaviour. 

    9. I let go of my PERFECTIONISM
    I tried, okay I’m still trying, to let go of perfectionism. I put enormous pressure on myself for things to be ‘just so’ or how I think other people expect them. I’m trying to recognise when the perfectionist takes over and let her go pronto. It’s a work in progress.

    10. I distanced myself from NEGATIVE PEOPLE
    Life is hard. That’s a given. But it’s how we deal with it that matters.
    My way is with optimism and positivity, once I’ve allowed myself to deal with and process the emotions. Personally, I find negative, pessimistic, competitive and angry people exceptionally draining. So once I realise that someone has that impact on me, I limit my time with them, to protect my own energy.

    11. I spent time in NATURE
    I spent a lot of time in nature. I walked along a local river, drove to the mountains, stayed by the sea. Nature is grounding and I found stillness and balance when I inhaled fresh air.

    12. I dealt with an unhealthy relationship with ALCOHOL
    Even my counsellor commented that I didn’t drink that much. But it wasn’t the amount that I was drinking, I recognised that it was the ‘why’ I drank that was the problem. I was trying to numb things or take the edge off, escape from life or sometimes escape from me.

    13. I RELOCATED to a Mediterranean island
    I’ve always had a very clear vision of how I imagined my life someday. I imagined living by the sea, living simply, buying fresh food from the local market and spending lots of time outdoors. I always believed that vision would be achieved when I reached retirement, but suddenly I realised, why wait until retirement? Why not live that vision now when I’m young enough (ish), fit enough (ish) and strong enough to deal with a big move?

    So this February I did just that. I moved to Mallorca, to a gorgeous, light, bright, airy, spacious top floor apartment in Palma.

    It’s too big for me but I wanted space for friends and family to visit, to feel like they have a home here.

    I can walk to the sea in 15 minutes, I shop at the local market, I get out into the mountains, countryside and beaches regularly. I don’t have a car. I don’t buy much stuff (I already have too much stuff and I don’t want to clutter my lovely space) and I’ve adopted a little dog. I work from home and I get out into co-working spaces or cafes when I know I need company.

    My favourite social events are coffees and brunches. Okay, okay, I also love a glass of Verdejo in the sunshine but I’ve no interest in nights out, or even fancy dinners. I became vegetarian during my time in India so even my food choices are more simple now. Every morning I enjoy coffee, writing and reading on the balcony and pottering about with a few plants.

    I’m living the lifestyle I dreamed of. And I get to help other people find the lifestyle they dream of too. So really I guess I’m a lifestyle coach. Because I believe in a holistic approach to Mind, Body, Life and Soul. If anything is out of balance, everything is out of balance. 

    How long did it take? 

    At the risk of sounding like an absolute cop out I really don’t know.

    The perimenopause hit me at the same time as the burnout. And perimenopause is the gift that just keeps on giving. It can last for up to 10 years, symptoms fluctuate and come and go and I still have days where I feel low or anxious.

    The major difference is that any changes in mood now usually last only a day or two. And surely that’s to be expected in life?

    The books that got me through this difficult time

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    I know I said I read a lot but I read far too much to be able to recommend everything here so here’s a link to my reading list.

    But if I had to select just a few, these are the books that had the most profound impact on me were:

    The Secret, Rhonda Byrne

    Love Is Letting Go of Fear, Gerald G. Jampolsky

    Lifeshocks: and how to love them, Sophie Sabbage

    Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, Gabor Maté

    The Power Of Now: A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment, Eckhart Tolle

    Your True Home, Thich Nhat Hanh

    Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind, Joe Dispenza, D.C.

    Tuesdays With Morrie: An old man, a young man and life’s greatest lesson, Mitch Albom

    How to lose weight & keep it off

    How to lose weight & keep it off

    Hands up who put on weight during lockdown?

    I know some people do lose their appetite through stressful times so this won’t affect everyone.

    But many of you will be more like me. My daily exercise was regular trips to the fridge! I often found myself standing at the fridge door, looking in blankly, hoping for inspiration and usually settling for more chocolate! Or cheese, or bread, or whatever was closest, but then I literally inhaled everything I ate and found myself back on the hunt just minutes later.

    So firstly, if you’ve been beating yourself up about the weight. Give yourself a break.

    There was a global crisis, our routines were upended, our lives full of fear and uncertainty and food was a brief, welcome, comforting respite.

    But enough is enough! Let’s get these stubborn pounds shifted…

    1. First, and most importantly, you have to actually want to lose the weight. So find your WHY. And at times when you’re struggling, remind yourself of WHY you want to lose weight to help you keep focus and motivation.

    2. Sorry to be the bearer of bad, boring news but there are no short cuts to losing weight. Get organised. Plan your meals, buy healthy and prep plenty.

    3. FAD or lose weight quick diets might help you kick-start the weight loss, but they’re not sustainable, often not healthy and you don’t break your old habits. To maintain your weight long term, you need to learn how to eat. Find a way of eating that suits your lifestyle.

    4. Move it. Find an exercise you enjoy and get moving. It’s great for endorphins too which will help you feel so much better. But bear in mind, you can’t exercise away a bad diet.

    5. Drink lots of water. Sometimes we mistake thirst for hunger. And it’s important to stay hydrated, helps with digestion too. But stick mainly to water, even fruit juices can be packed with sugar.

    6. Write down what you eat. It’s sometimes surprising how much more you’ve eaten than you thought. You might also find patterns of when and what you eat. I’m a grazer and snack constantly and eat throughout the day. That all soon adds up.

    7. Food is fuel for our bodies. Would you put cheap, nasty fuel in your car? Let’s treat ourselves as carefully by trying to eat more fresh, nutritious, unprocessed ‘fuel’. Read the labels, avoid high saturated fats, hidden sugars, high salts, E numbers and names of ingredients you can’t even pronounce.

    8. Don’t call it a diet. It’s a way of eating that will enable you to lose weight and a new way of eating that will make sure you stay at a healthy weight you’re happy with. My diet is how I eat, I’m not on a diet.

    9. Learn to love (and trust) food. Your body needs carbs, your body needs fats. No food is bad, in small amounts. Chocolate is good for the soul. Just not in the vast quantities that saw me through lockdown!

    10. Try smaller plates or portions. I don’t know about you but I was brought up to clear my plate. Whatever the size! So maybe fill a smaller plate at first. Eat slowly, eat mindfully and stop when you’re full.

    11. Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels. That’s bulls*t. And whoever said that had clearly never tasted Lindt dark chocolate with sea-salt, or meringue with fresh cream, or cheesecake, or freshly baked bread with butter, or cheese, or… you get my drift. HOWEVER, when tempted by any of the above or your own tasty pleasure, just take a moment to reflect on your WHY. Do you want that chunk of cake more than you want to lose weight? If the answer right now is yes, which sometimes it might be then either try having a little, or eat it with unbridled pleasure and savour each mouthful. You’ve made a choice. Own it and enjoy it.

    12. When you eat something ‘bad’, ENJOY it! Stop whatever else you’re doing, sit still and enjoy every last morsel. Don’t ruin it by eating it with a huge side-serving of guilt. Savour it with intention and satisfaction. Otherwise it wasn’t worth it. So if you’re out for your friend’s birthday lunch and you had a nice healthy meal but find you can’t resist the dessert menu, just have the cake/cheesecake/tart/cream filled pastry and enjoy it. Maybe you’ll share it with someone, maybe you’ll eat the lot. But you’ve made a choice to have it, so give yourself permission to accept that decision, lean into that and enjoy it!

    13. But don’t let that de-rail you. Don’t decide you’ll start your ‘diet’ again tomorrow, or the next day or after the weekend or whenever… Eat the next meal as you had planned and prepped. You’re making mostly ‘healthy’ food choices and sometimes you have treats. That’s life.

    Failing fast, failing forward

    Failing fast, failing forward

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    When I was younger I was afraid of failure. I avoided things that I thought I wouldn’t be good at it.

    Maybe that was the perfectionist in me, not wanting to fail. Or the introvert, not wanting others to see me fail.

    I don’t know when I managed to leave that fear or failure behind but I was lucky to have spent some time working with a dynamic company where I was really encouraged to set very ambitious goals then try to figure out how on earth I was going to achieve them.

    I rarely achieved these goals first time, certainly not completely but there were no repercussions. I was ‘allowed’ to try then encouraged to try again. Through these experiences I learned how to fail.

    Recently I’ve faced fear again in fairly straightforward scenarios and tasks.

    Fear of the unknown, fear of uncertainty, fear of visibility and fear of failure.

    Realising this has made me reflect and make new commitments to myself:

    ✨ I will fail

    ✨ I will learn

    ✨ I will try again

    ✨ I will fail faster

    ✨ I will fail forward

    ✨ I will embrace failure as a stepping-stone to success

    🌈🙏🏼🌟💫✨

    #mindbodylifesoul #lovethelifeyoulive #onelifeliveit #onelife #sayyestolife #mind #howtofail #failforward #failfast #successmindset

     

    Creating a Personal Vision Statement

    Creating a Personal Vision Statement

    You might have heard this called a Life Purpose Statement. Both serve the same brilliant purpose…helping you discover your dreams and creating a personal statement that supercharges you towards living it.

    1. List two of your unique personal qualities, such as enthusiasm and creativity.

    2. List one or two ways you enjoy expressing those qualities when interacting with others, such as to support and inspire.

    3. What are your greatest strengths/abilities/traits/things you do best?

    4. What motivates you or brings you joy and satisfaction?

    5. Write down at least two things you can start doing more often that use your strengths and bring you joy.

    6. Combine your previous answers into a single paragraph or statement.

    Example:
    My purpose is using my creativity and enthusiasm to support and inspire others as I freely express my talent in happiness and love.

    My personal vision statement:

     

     

     

    Designing Your Perfect Life Plan

    Designing Your Perfect Life Plan

    Why do I need a life plan? I’ve managed without it all this time, why do I need one now?

    A life plan is like a map that helps guide us towards a more meaningful and fulfilled life. It’s one that we’ve considered and envisioned for our future. Without a clear life plan we can find ourselves drifting or meandering along with no real direction, vision or purpose.

      So how do I do it?

       

      Let’s look at some simple ways to begin developing your perfect life plan.

      Step 1:  Take stock of where you are now

      List the key areas of your life that you want to review and plan for. If you’ve watched the Masterclass you’ll already have started to consider these. 

      As a guiding example, when I’m doing my life plan review, I list my key areas under my holistic mind, body, life, soul framework. So for instance, in my case these key areas are:

      – Mental health (mind)
      – Personal growth (mind)
      – Emotional wellbeing (mind)
      – Physical health (body)
      – Physical fitness (body)
      – Nutrition (body)
      – Personal style & brand (body)
      – Career (life)
      – Finances (life)
      – Connection & belonging (life)
      – Where I live (life)
      – Spirituality (soul)
      – Life purpose (soul)
      – Personal life plan (soul)
      – Daily practice (soul)

      Everyone’s key areas are different, so it’s important that you choose what’s relevant and meaningful to you.

      • Rate each of these areas how they currently are on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best possible life.
      • Consider how you would like them to be. What would a 10 look like?
      • List the realities of your life such as your responsibilities, available finances, things that really make you happy or things that make you unhappy.

      Step 2:  Create a snapshot in your mind of your ideal life

      • Remember to dream big!  The sky’s the limit so don’t be afraid to be bold.
      • Use your list from Step 1 as a starting point then add anything and everything that gets you excited about your life like hobbies, early retirement, family time, charity work etc…
        Details are good here as it will help you visualise later.
      • Think about those things that you really love to do and notice any themes that might be recurring.

       

      Step 3: Take an inventory of your skills and talents, listing all of your professional and personal accomplishments, achievements and strengths.

      My blog post 15 ways to discover your natural skills and talents for tips on how to do this.


      Step 4: 
      Create a manifesto or personal vision statement, so you can boldly proclaim your wants, needs and desires

      This personal vision statement post shows you how to really get creative with this.

      Take into consideration your snapshot of your life (Step 2) and what you’ve discovered is important to you.

      This statement should be all encompassing and it should include everything you have already discovered about yourself and your dreams, bringing it all together in one clear statement.

      This enables you to make commitments to yourself and stand for something. It should capture the value you create and who you’re creating for, including yourself!

      As an example, here is my personal vision statement:
      “Live in a way that leaves no regrets. Be the best I can be. Use my enthusiasm and optimism to inspire growth and bring out the best in people. Have fun in my journey, keep learning. Open up, let people in, be brave enough to wear my scars on the outside. Maintain a sense of wellbeing and calm, be kind to myself and believe I deserve it.

      I review my statement every 6 months or so to make sure it still aligns but after tweaking my first few drafts, it hasn’t changed in almost two years, which shows that the initial time I spent in contemplation really got me thinking deeply and helped me create my personal guiding roadmap.


      Step 5:
        Hold this vision in your mind by contemplating it for a few moments, each and every day

      This is a vital step in the process because you are essentially reprogramming your mind towards this new way of life. The more you imprint this image in your mind, the more your mind will guide you towards it.


      Step 6:  Take small, actionable steps so you can begin moving towards this new goal

      If you take time to focus on your new way of life every day, your mind (and the Universe) will begin to create ways for you to get there.

      A bit more about me…

      A bit more about me…

      For most of my career I was an HR Director. I moved from Belfast to Manchester, UK in 2013 and even back then I had hoped to change careers but I kept getting offers of HR roles which were difficult to turn down.

      By early 2018 I was in total burnout, working 65-70 hours a week in a career I no longer wanted to do and the dissatisfaction with my job was affecting all parts of my life. I was investing all of my energy into work and, with my tank on empty, I didn’t have the energy to make a change. My “aha” moment was when I realised that it wasn’t organisations I was invested in, but the individual people at the core of the business. Although I was very successful, I wasn’t particularly suited to an HR Director role because I care so deeply about people and I was lacking the same level of commitment to the organisational strategy and success. I’d reached a point where it was financially rewarding but not in any way emotionally rewarding.

      I have navigated anxiety and depression throughout my entire adult life however the heaviness and panic that swept over me at this period in my life started to take me under. I pushed through the panic attacks until I felt out of control and couldn’t take any more. Everything was failing in my wellbeing and, even when I left work to prioritise my health, I actually became even more unwell.

      The entire time I was navigating this burnout, an entrepreneurial itch had been sitting with me. I’d worked for my entire life, from the age of 16, and had been involved in the glorification of busy for over 20 years! While my life looked beautiful and full from the outside, I was lost and wasn’t enjoying or appreciating with presence, any moments of here and now. My mind was always onto the next thing.

      I was halfway through my life and I realised I couldn’t let the next half be the same. I needed to discover where I wanted to be which was difficult for me as I was passionate about so many topics.

      My breakdown became my breakthrough. I quit my job and found the space and time that I needed to get better. I knew I needed to stop, to slow down and approach my entire life at a different pace. I stopped for six months and shed the items that didn’t serve me, my house, big car, so many clothes with labels still on that I didn’t even remember owning. My entire lifestyle shifted. I travelled to India for yoga teacher training and it was the next step in my spiritual journey. I started using my mindfulness practice to shift my awareness in how I approached everything in my life.

      Five years before I had completed a coaching qualification, introduced a coaching programme in work and had always really enjoyed coaching people. I’m intrigued by their stories and goals and I’m passionate about helping them achieve them.

      In trying to find my way out of my own burnout and mid-life crisis, I leaned on tools I’d trusted while coaching others and also sought additional resources online. None of them quite ‘fit’ so I developed my own toolkit and system to help others transform their lives too. My holistic approach to life coaching is combined with spiritual practices to help shift your mindset, shed your old practices and beliefs and create the life of your dreams.

      I shed my old mindset, rooted into my spirituality, healed my heart and started coaching other women how to do the same. I watched them recover from burnout, feeling stuck in careers, lost in life’s path and helped them to develop a spiritual practice, adopt a self-care itinerary and start to prioritise themselves in their day-to-day lives.

      In the past two years, I’ve ‘lost’ or released my job, career, home, relationship, income, lifestyle, limiting beliefs and a few bad habits. I’ve gained health, time, balance, happiness, fulfilment, appreciation for life’s simple pleasures, stronger friendships, a spiritual practice, a lust for life and an understanding of who I am and how I want my ‘new’ life to be. I’m not perfect but I’m learning how to be myself and the best part was discovering that my purpose is to dedicate my professional life to empower, motivate and inspire women to look at their lives from a different perspective.

      Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups, while earning an income on my online business and I have created the Love The Life You Live: Uncover A Life Of Purpose & Passion system, a series of important life evaluation and design steps that every woman who wants to get unstuck and design a fulfilling new life needs to apply to rewrite their stories and embrace more joy, freedom and wellbeing in their everyday lives.

      In January 2020, I relocated to Palma de Mallorca, Spain and I’m living my dream life in a bright, light rooftop apartment with a little white foster dog for company. Everyone’s dreams are different. I can help you find and live yours.

      Layer Your Skincare Products Like A Pro

      Layer Your Skincare Products Like A Pro

      Does it really matter what order you layer on your skincare?

       

      Absolutely, YES!

      No matter how good your products, applying them the wrong way could mean that they might not penetrate your skin, so ultimately they’re just not going to be effective.

      In which case you’ll miss out on all the fab benefits and ultimately waste your products, time and money.


      So where do you start?

      Generally speaking you’ll apply the lightest products first, and water based products before oil-based products.

      Simple!

      Okay, not really…

      There are so many new products now, lots of them with names suggesting you’d need a science degree to understand what they actually are.  And if you’re anything like me, you’ll come across so many articles and posts giving recommendations that for a long time, I gave up even trying to get my head around it.

      But deep down I knew there were so many brilliant skincare products available that I’d be missing out if I didn’t try.

      So purely in my own selfish interests and a desire to preserve my own (aging) skin, I was determined to break it all down. And the research blew my mind even more.

      First of all, what I would say is that YOU DO NOT NEED ALL OF THESE STEPS! EVER.

      Consider your own skin requirements, what products you already use, which you want to keep using, what products you want to try.

      And if you have sensitive skin or you’re treating any skin conditions please seek expert advice before introducing new products into your skincare regime.

      Then whatever you do use, should that only be 2 or 3 products, use them in this order, allowing time for each product to absorb before applying the next.

       

      Morning skincare routine

      1. Cleanse

      Yes, even if you’ve done it the night before! Use a cleansing milk/balm/gel and give it a nice quick wipe with a warm flannel and this helps gently exfoliate.

      2. Toner

      If you use it. It can help remove any traces of cleanser.

      3. Exfoliate

      If you want to use product this could be a gentle liquid exfoliating acid. Although you don’t necessarily need to do this as the warm flannel in Step 1 helps gently exfoliate while cleansing.
      And if you’re using a stronger exfoliant at night-time, such as Glycolic Acid, then you can skip this step altogether.

      4. Hydrate

      With a facial mist to help maximise hydration

      5. Eye cream

      Apply this before other face products so that it can be absorbed

      6. Treatment serum

      To treat your own skin concerns. These might include Peptides, Niacinimide, Antioxidants or Vitamin C derivatives.

      7. Hydrating Serum

      Light serums with humectants, such as a Hyaluronic Acid serum help lock in moisture.

      8. Moisturiser

      You may not need both a moisturiser and a hydrating serum, if not use which works best for you. If not using an oil, moisturiser should always be your last layer before sunscreen.

      9. Face Oil

      Oil locks in the hydrating benefits of every other layer. But while it locks the moisture in, no other products can get through this so use it last.

      10. SPF

      Always use an SPF30 or higher and make sure you’re using a broad-spectrum sunscreen that protects against UVA rays and UVB rays. La Roche-Posay Anthelios.

       

      My Morning Routine 

      Believe me, I DO NOT DO ALL OF THAT every morning! I use a handful of these products so don’t ever need all these steps, otherwise I’d never have time to leave the house!

      I’m all about simple and efficient and if I could find one product that would do everything, to me that would be the dream. But until that time, here’s what I do…

      1. Cleanse with a mild cream cleanser and a warm flannel
      Right now I switch between The Ordinary Squalane Cleanser and CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser. Both are very simple, gentle cleansers that don’t make my skin feel tight or dry after washing. 

      2. Eye cream
      The Ordinary Caffeine Solution 5% + EGCG – My morning caffeine shot for my eyes, they feel instantly refreshed. 

      * Occasional use of niacinimide or salicylic acid
      I used to alternate these each morning but now that I’m using Glycolic Acid at night-time I  find I don’t need them every morning
      The Ordinary Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1%
      The Ordinary Salicylic Acid 2% Solution 

      3. Hyaluronic Acid
      The Ordinary Hyaluronic Acid 2% + B5

      Spotting my obsession with The Ordinary yet?!

      4. Peptide Serum
      ALDI Lacura Q10 Multi-Intensive Serum
      Yes, Aldi! It’s amazing, so light it’s absorbed in seconds but this serum works! 

      5. SPF 
      La Roche-Posay Anthelios SPF50+, Invisible Fluid

      BOOM! 5 steps. Job done!

      I use a lot of the same products both morning and night, just introducing AM or PM specific products where needed.

       

      Evening skincare regime

      Night time when you sleep is when your skin does all its repair, recovery and renewal. Your evening routine is prepping the skin for effective treatment.

      1. Double cleanse
      First step is removing make-up and the grease and dirt of the day. An oil based product is good to cut through all this.
      Even if you’re not wearing make-up, you’ll need a double cleanse to wash your SPF off properly to avoid breakouts.

      After that, you can use a mild balm, milk or gel cleanser to actually clean your skin. Again, you can use a warm flannel to help gently exfoliate.

      2. Toner

      3. Exfoliate
      With a mild liquid chemical exfoliator. You can use a stronger product such as AHAs or BHAs at night time. Glycolic, salicylic and azelaic acids all remove dead skin cells without harming the skin barrier.

      4. Eye care

      5. Treatment serum

      6. Retinoid
      ‘Best used at night time when you’re not exposed to light.

      7. Hydrating serum

      8. Moisturiser
      You can use a rich cream at night unless these are too heavy for your skin

      9. Face Oil
      Again this helps lock in all those layers of goodness

      10 Lip Balm
      A slick of lip balm helps soothe those lips with some overnight repair

      Tips:
      * Always include your neck and décolletage in your skincare. Or as I recently heard skincare guru Caroline Hirons describe it TITTT…Take It To The Tits. Fab advice!
      * Where possible opt for paraben free, fragrance free, alcohol free products.
      * Avoid using too many active ingredients. These powerful ingredients can counteract with each other and irritate the skin.

      And that’s it.

      My Evening Routine

      1. Double Cleanse
      – Remove make-up with Garnier SkinActive Micellar Cleansing Water
      – Cleanse with a mild cream cleanser and a warm flannel, I like The Ordinary Squalane Cleanser and CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser.

      2. Glycolic acid to exfoliate
      My current favourites, actually my long-term absolute favourites are: 
      The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7% Toning Solution
      Alpha-H Liquid Gold with Glycolic Acid described as an ‘overnight facial’. It really is. 

      3. Eye care
      No7 Protect & Perfect Intense Advanced Eye Cream

      4. Face oil
      Drunk Elephant Virgin Marula Luxury Facial Oil  100% natural, highly antioxidant, and a little goes a long way. 

      You can read about some of my favourites in My Must-Have Budget Skincare Products, which also shows that looking after you skin can also be done while looking after your pennies.

      If you have the right products working at their optimum when used correctly, then a handful of products should be all you need.

      And I’ve broken down some of the science of these active ingredients in Skincare: AHAs, BHAs…WTF?!

      Enjoy all those luscious layers of skin pampering!

      Why is a life purpose important?

      Why is a life purpose important?

      Why is a life purpose so important anyway?

      It’s who you are.

      Who you are and why you’re here.

      Your life purpose normally uses your natural talents, skills and abilities and is tied to that one thing that you absolutely love to do. Once you tap into those gifts you can start sharing them with the world, living your purpose.

      When you align your choices and actions with your life purpose, life flows in a more successful, meaningful, fulfilling way.

      You might be thinking that by your age you should have it all worked out by now but that’s not the case. Your life purpose can evolve as you mature and that’s possibly the reason you’re feeling stuck. What once satisfied you no longer does, and you need to rediscover what your purpose is now.

      Plan how to turn your dreams into reality and design a live a better life with direction and focus that be will filled with more passion, joy and aliveness.

      “The meaning of life is to find your gift.
      The purpose of life is to give it away.”

      Download this fab free workbook to help you discover your passion and purpose. 

      Find your gift, find your meaning, find your purpose.

      Hola Mallorca!

      Hola Mallorca!

      Well hello Mallorca!

      I visited briefly and you grabbed my heart. I explored the island and loved every part. And now I live here! I still can’t quite believe that this is home.

      16 weeks ago today I set foot in Mallorca for the very first time. When I arrived here the rain was lashing down and yet I think I still fell instantly for this island.

      I initially came here with the intention of exploring a little bit then possibly returning here later in the winter for another break from the gloomy UK weather. IF, I actually liked the island. But I very quickly realised that unless I found something I really didn’t like, how could this not be a good location for winter escapes?

      A week into my stay, my landlord in Manchester got in touch to let me know that he was putting my flat up for sale. And so, the Universe sent me a great big shove in this direction 🙏🏼  and I couldn’t be happier.

      I’ve created a fairly detailed Life Plan and a very beautiful Vision Board, both laying out how I visualise (and manifest) my future. My aspirations were to eventually retire to the sun, but before that to set myself up to live between the UK/Ireland and somewhere in the sunshine. But my landlord’s call became a defining lightbulb moment… why wait?

      A conversation with friends had initially triggered some thoughts around this. Over a few glasses of wine they were all detailing their plans for retirement. And it really got me thinking, why are we waiting to retire? Why don’t we live life now? When we’re young, fit, brave, tenacious, resilient and resourceful enough to fully appreciate it.

      So I decided to take the leap to practice what I preach to my courageous clients. Follow my heart. Follow my dreams. Follow my intuition.

      Don’t get me wrong. This hasn’t been easy. It’s been tough, exhausting, emotional and totally overwhelming at times.

      In fact it’s pretty fecking scary. I need to set up business. Find a home. Make friends. Earn an income. Make contacts. Set up a life. Set up everything! On my own. In a country where I don’t speak the language.

      Not forgetting I had to pack up the old life. Say goodbyes (even though it’s only bye for now). Pack up my home. Sell my stuff. Swear never to ‘collect’ so much stuff again! Arrange storage. Arrange shipping. Visit Ireland for more goodbyes. And repeat both trips, to sort out things that didn’t go right in the first place!

      But, fingers crossed, I think I might almost be done. And very soon I’ll be in my bright new apartment and feeling like a fully-fledged ‘resident’ of Mallorca. When I can relax into the amazing lifestyle I imagined on my Vision Board. Then breathe, relax and appreciate every single second.

      So hello Mallorca! 16 weeks ago I arrived here for the very first time. I left you twice and spent 5 weeks away. So it’s been 11 glorious weeks together so far. Is it too soon to say I love you? ❤

      Rising Ritual: The importance of your morning routine

      Rising Ritual: The importance of your morning routine

      Good morning sunshine!

      What we do first thing in the morning sets the tone for our entire day.

      It’s been proven that establishing good morning habits makes you more likely to make healthy choices throughout the day.

      We only have a certain amount of willpower each day but it’s strongest on wakening. That’s why we’re more inclined to demolish that family size chocolate bar at night time when our willpower reserves are low.

      Stepping straight into a routine in the morning eliminates the need for any decisions, saving that brain power for later in the day meaning we’ll be much more productive. If it’s good enough for the most successful 1% of people in the planet then why not give it a try?

      Don’t get me wrong, I don’t always do it. But I always do some of it. Even when I first waken, I list three things I’m grateful for before I get out of bed, even if it’s just being thankful for my warm, comfy bed. It starts the day with a positive mindset.

      And when I do follow my full routine, it takes less than an hour and makes me feel more grounded, focused, centred and clears my mind for the day ahead.

      So here are some of the options you might choose from to start your day as you mean to continue. Some are similar but it’s important to choose what really suits you so that you’re more likely to stick to it long term.

      RISING RITUAL OPTIONS:
      – Silence
      – Meditation
      – Gratitude
      – Affirmations
      – Visualisation
      – Intentions: set your intention for the day
      – Pranayama (breathing)
      – Reading
      – Journalling 
      – Stretching
      – Yoga
      – Exercise
      – Cold shower
      – Tech free zone
      – Mindful coffee / tea / breakfast

      Please post in the comments if you’d like more info on any of these or if you’d like to add something from your routine that’s missing from this list.

       

      So how do you do yours?…

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